![]() ![]() McCullers explains that most of us prefer to love rather than be loved: Yes, and the lover may see this as clearly as anyone else – but that does not affect the evolution of his love one whit.” The Ballad of the Sad Café (2005) p. The beloved may be treacherous, greasy-headed, and given to evil habits. “The most outlandish people can be the stimulus for love. The motives and reasons of the heart are unfathomable, writes Carson McCullers: We don’t decide who we love, and sometimes don’t know why. Love that is unconditional transcends time, place, behavior, and worldly concerns. ![]() It’s the total acceptance of someone – a powerful energy emanating from the heart. Unconditional love is more a state of receptivity and allowing, which arises from our own “basic goodness,” says Trungpa Rimpoche. Unlike romantic love, unconditional love does not seek pleasure or gratification. Right or wrong, most parents at times only love their children conditionally. To a child, even time-outs can feel emotionally abandoning. (In prior generations, paternal love was thought of as conditional.) In fact, most parents withdraw their love when over-stressed or when their children misbehave. Particularly maternal love is equated to unconditional love. Of all relationships, parental love is the most enduring. When we yearn for unconditional love it’s because we didn’t receive it in childhood and fail to give it to ourselves. The problem is often twofold: No human being, nor any relationship can ever achieve perfection, and often unconditional and conditional love are confused. Are you searching for a soul mate or unconditional love? Your quest can set you on an impossible journey to find an ideal partner.
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